1. Skip to navigation
  2. Skip to content
  3. Skip to secondary-content




Talking Shop: ‘BlAsian Exchanges’

By: Annabelle Udo, Dec 13, 2007
Tags: Bay Area |

AWcover_BlAsian

BlAsian Exchanges is first-time author Sam Cacas’ recently released novel, which explores interracial relationships between black women and Asian men (termed by the portmanteau “BlAsian”). Cacas, 52, a former AsianWeek writer who moderates a discussion group focusing on black women and Asian men, tells the story of Earvin Ilokano, a Filipino American who deals with his frustrations as a journalist by penning a novel that recollects his attraction for black women and culture.

Why did you decide to write about the BlAsian relationship?
Sam Cacas: I wanted to write about interracial attraction/dating/marriage for about 10 years, because I felt that the Asian man’s perspective on attraction to black women has not been covered by either the mainstream media or the black media. Given my intimate involvement with black women for the last 33 years of my life (I have been married to a black woman for seven years and previously to another black woman for nine years). I felt I had a perspective that the public needed to hear, and I had to just write my own story.

What makes BlAsian relationships different than other interracial relationships?
BlAsian relationships involve two people of color together, which is significant to me because being intimate and social with my partner means a lot of not having to explain what it means to be discriminated against regularly because of the color of my skin and standing up to it when I want to.

Why do you think the issue of BlAsian relationships is so important to get out there?
Society is still ambivalent about accepting the Asian guy who is politically conscious, affectionate, and polyculturally bold enough to pursue their attraction for black women like I have — not the stereotypical Asian male nerd who is not masculine enough to even have sexual or romantic feelings for women. BlAsian relationships only started happening in the late ’90s and are regularly verified on the Internet in Yahoo discussion groups like PowerCouples_AMBW with 300-plus members — mostly black women—which I co-moderate, and YouTube videos like the one showing the BlAsian couple in an IKEA commercial. The image of black women and Asian men needs to be broadened beyond their archetypal racial uniforms of accepting notions of white beauty.

What sort of myths are associated with BlAsian relationships?
That they won’t last a long time, that Asians and blacks are not compatible, that such relationships are merely political statements.

Why did you choose Greek mythology to complement your interest in black women?
Greek mythology taught me a lot about developing the so-called “third eye” — the sense of intuition based on the wisdom that others have imparted, such as wise sayings, mythological stories such as those from ancient Greek literature, etc. For me, it has also included proverbs and family stories from my parents’ Ilokano background.

Are there any links that you recommend for people who want to know more about this subject matter?
» groups.yahoo.com/group/BlAsianExchanges/
» groups.yahoo.com/PowerCouples_AMBW
» www.interracialchats.com
» www.asian-nation.org/interracial.shtml
» www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIbxxH3ZcCg�

Comments

  1. Wow! This is great! I am a black female college student who has always been attracted to Asian guys. In the past I was always afraid to share that fact with anyone, especially other black females who usually think it’s weird. Now, I don’t care what people think. We are all the human race and it shouldn’t bother people to see a couple of different colors together in love. In a few decades, I KNOW the numbers of Blasian couples in the U.S will increase tremendously! : )

    –Diana on Dec 14, 2007

  2. There are many chocolate Asians doing quite well: KimoraLee-Simmons, Cassie, Amerie, have you ever thought about doing a story on them?

    –V Dunn on Dec 14, 2007

  3. Where can I pick up a copy? I want to share it with the boyfriend.

    –Spunkalunk on Dec 14, 2007

  4. This is suprising.I myself have been very attracted to Asian males ever since was young.Back then I would always be worried of what others gonna think,and that “look” me and my BF would always get in public.But now I really enjoy the attention I am getting from them,wether they like us or not nothing can break us apart.

    –Doreen on Dec 14, 2007

  5. Glad to see something in the Asian community that’s not centering around white people only. It is time we pay some attention to other interracial relationships other than WM/AF. Thank you Asian Week for publishing such an enlightening article.

    –Rob on Dec 14, 2007

  6. Spunkalunk:

    You can pick up a copy of “BlAsian Exchanges, a novel” at the following places: (1) EastWind Books of Berkeley, 2066 University Avenue, Berkeley, CA 94704, phone: 510-548-2350; (2) City Lights Bookstore, 261 Columbus Avenue, San Franicsco, CA phone: 415-362-8193. If you want to buy an autographed copy from me the author, send a check or money order for $21.95 (18.95 for the purchase price plus 3.00) for postage and handling to: Sam Cacas, 1355 Leavenworth Street #12, San Francisco, CA 94109. Make the check out to Nobhillwriter Associates.

    Sam Cacas
    Author of BlAsian Exchanges, a novel
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BlAsianExchanges

    –Sam Cacas on Dec 15, 2007

  7. I love this article and I’ve always had an attraction towards asian men. I find them to be very exotic creatures and just loving ;)

    –brittany on Dec 18, 2007

  8. I’m thoroughly happy about this interview. I am a mixed woman married to a Chinese man and I have always wondered why there aren’t more Blasian relationships, so I’m glad that Mr. Cacas is raising some important questions and thought provoking dialogue. Kudos!
    M.

    –MaryLynn on Dec 19, 2007

  9. That I should live to see this day!
    When “races” are not only comfortable with one another, but have reached the understanding that “race” is but one facet of ANY relationship.
    The sine qua non herein is LOVE, baby.
    If love resides, presides, then nothing else matters.
    The fearmongers and hatemongers will always be out there, lurking in the bushes, but they are as tinkling brass in the full orchestration of human love,
    Greetings to Sam Cacas and felicitations to all you deliriously happy interracial couples out there.
    Let all the others envy.
    Frank Eng

    –Frank Eng on Dec 19, 2007

  10. Wow, this was very informative. I’m glad that I actually get to see a male perspective of this type of relationship.

    –Danielle on Dec 20, 2007

  11. I recalled when I was in college, one Asian or Japanese classmate dated one of the most beautiful Black woman I have ever since. I saw him in San Francisco w/ his girl. She looked very fine. I don’t know, she had all the Caucasian feature like the eye, nose, face, and body. Maybe she was mixed but I didn’t see it in her. She was totally dark. They were shopping w. her mom, brother and him in China town.

    Our society live w/ some pre-judgement in place. However, sometime, we have to look outside the political, and other factor. I know, it is difficulty to say it, but, you feel it inside.

    –Eastern_Leader on Dec 22, 2007

  12. I’m an African American/Native American woman from NYC who never had any problems dating within other ethnic groups including Asian one of whom i’ve been happily married to for 19+ years.
    I love men, but in particularly Asian men and find I have more in common with them spiritually, intellectually, and culturally in general.
    My daughter is dating a very mellow spirited, beautiful Cambodian man.
    AA women attraction to Asian men and vice versa is not a new phenomena! :D

    –Huney on Jan 02, 2008

  13. I too am glad to read this article. All you see on TV and in ads are white guys with Asian women. Bleeeh!

    –anonymous on Jan 03, 2008

  14. I’m a 32 year old African American /Native American woman who is happily married to a Filipino/Russian (Jewish) man. Before I met my husband I always dated interracially and had a wonderful time doing it. When people question me about my husband I always tell them that my senior prom date was Chinese. That usually shut up really quickly! : ) I’ll agree with the poster Huney I NEVER had a problem dating other racial groups either. I’m extremely pleased this article was published and look forward to more like it in the future!

    –ChelB on Jan 17, 2008

  15. I’m a mixed BLAsian girl of Corean ( Korean for those who don’t know), Japanese, Bedouin ( Which is African/Arabian) and Anglo-Saxon ( English) blood. I have always had an attraction to Asian men.

    There aren’t many Asian men here in Pittsburgh though. I’m happy to read about the many African-American women who have met Asian men, in New York , because I’m moving there.

    I def want this book, how can I get it?

    Also, thanks for writing this book. NO only for Blasian couples but for us Blasian kids as well.

    –Patrizia Lee on Jan 18, 2008

  16. Patrizia, you’re welcome and thanks so much for your kudos. You can buy an autographed copy of “BlAsian Exchanges, a novel” from me the author, send a check or money order for $21.95 (18.95 for the purchase price plus 3.00) for postage and handling to: Sam Cacas, 1355 Leavenworth Street #12, San Francisco, CA 94109. Make the check out to Nobhillwriter Associates.

    Sam Cacas
    Author of BlAsian Exchanges, a novel
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BlAsianExchanges
    e-mail: nobhillwriter@gmail.com

    –Sam Cacas on Jan 19, 2008

  17. Very cool that “AsianWeek” did this piece…the only un-cool thing is it seems mainly black or mixed black women have [positive] comments whereas many other online articles here have tons of Asian participants commenting. As yet another mixed black female (black/French/Native American) who likes Asian men, I would have loved to see Asian men comment with their thoughts and/or see how other Asians view this.

    –rensational on Feb 06, 2008

  18. I agree with you, rensational. I mostly see black/black mixed women’s comments on articles or forums regarding Blasian couples. I very rarely see comments from asians. It makes me think that most aren’t very keen on Blasian relationships. I know many asians and I know that most are very strongly opposed to the idea, or are quietly disapproving. Actually, I don’t think any of the asians I know approve of it at all. Not saying that they represent all asians, but it makes me wonder…

    –Hana on Feb 09, 2008

  19. Wow, is all I have to say. This is great I’ve very opened minded when it comes to dating guys so I love asian men. It great to see someone else’s view on the subject.

    –Marmar on Feb 14, 2008

  20. My boyfriend of 5 years recently proposed to me on a trip down in the Everglades. I later thought just how close I came to missing out on the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I’m African-American and Irish-American but grew up within the black community and he’s Japanese-American and Vietnamese. I was reluctant to start dating because I had NEVER seen a Blasian couple before! I looked for awhile for some sort of blog/message board/forum on this and found nothing…I’m so glad I finally found this site!!

    –DJ on Feb 17, 2008

  21. I absolutely agree with you. I’m a blexican and my fiance is asian and we’ve been together for a very long time. We love eachother despite eachother’s skin color.I lost many friends when I went out with him, but it was worth it now I’ve found my life partner in him.

    –leelee on Feb 21, 2008

  22. I have lots of Asian friends and none of them disapprove of me (African American) having an attraction to Asian men. Some of them have tried to encourage me dating them and some have tried to play matchmaker. Maybe it’s the area we live in though…..In any case, this is great especially for those who want to try it. I think your book is a great idea!

    –Megumi on Feb 26, 2008

  23. Well, i stumbled upon this site, and saw the cover of an asian guy a with a black girl, and of course intrested me because im a asian male, ( chinese and vietnamese ) dating an ethiopian girl. i had a asian male friend who also dated an ethiopian girl back 5 yrs ago, but lost contact with him, and that was the last time ever that i’ve seen an Blasian couple untill my self. so at first it was unusal in the area to find a blasian couple, but now after 2 yrs + dating, we starting to see alot more blasian couples, old and young.

    Alot of women have been wondering on an asian guy’s outlook so here it is. I have always been open to dating other ethincs, its not a problem with me. everybody is diffrent, and theres so much in this world to experince. some of my friends asian male friend dont really approve, my asian female friends dont mind. my mixed friends and non asian friends dont mind either. it can be difficult with the family, since im the first generation here in america, but i deal with it, and get thru it, because it is my life, it is my decidetion who i go home to see every night, not what will please my family.

    it might seem to be unsual ( i dont know if thats the right word to use ) in this area now, and to the media ( except that ikea commerical, i love that one ) but everytime we join hands in public, its making more people aware.

    Mark

    –Mark on Feb 28, 2008

  24. It is very interesting. I have been attract to Asian Men since I was younger. I recently met Asian Man from NYC and we had contact pretty often. Unfortunately, He left from NYC because he joined in Marine by now, I think. Right now, he informed me that he found someone from Marine. I felt lost by him because we can’t make relationship. We are friends (Him and I). He asked me If I don’t mind to continue to email him. I told him, Sure, I would do that.

    I have been rare Blasian couples. There is nothing wrong with outside of races.

    Great article! Thank you! I really like this site. =)

    –Capricia on Mar 02, 2008

  25. There’s nothing wrong with asian males dating black females, especially if they look like halle berry or beyonce or rihanna. Now those women are hawt!

    –Juno on Mar 10, 2008

  26. As a 40 year old divorced Black female, single mother of
    one who works fulltime and attend college fulltime, I’m attracted to men of all races but particularly Asian men. Not because of their race but because they are who I am more comfortable being with and communicating with. Black men just don’t appeal to me.

    –lady_gsheehan on Mar 10, 2008

  27. I have been trying to get a job in Asia for years so I can meet Asian men. The closest I have come is India. And I turned it down. Indian men aren’t Asian you know.

    –Vallerie G on Mar 10, 2008

  28. Again kudos to Sam! Thanks for putting to light about something that’s rarely discussed–blasian relationships. As a black guy who dated a hapa and have always been attracted to Asian women, I feel like I’m not the only one. Keep up the great work Sam and to all the blasian couples–I’m really proud of ya! Stay strong!

    –Rodney on Mar 12, 2008

  29. I wish there were asian guys who liked black girls in England,UK. But I doubt it. =[

    –Tammy on Mar 13, 2008

  30. Good article. I’m an educated black male who only dates petite, feminine Asian females. Asian females really know how to act like a lady. I hope to see more bm/aw couples like us around.

    –SuitMan on Mar 14, 2008

  31. The word BlAsian became familiar to me last year, when I searched the internet feverishly for something to ease my mind. Until then I had known of and seen only Asian women with Black men, or Asian wo/men with Caucasian wo/men, which seemed very unfair.

    I’m a mix of Black and Caucasian and I’ve been attracted to Asian men since I was very young. I live in Finland and I haven’t seen any BlAsian couples here. I’ve seriously thought about moving to the US (to be closer to my father’s side of the family). Finland’s population is minimal anyway. The chances of me finding an Asian guy who’s into Black girls here is very bleak.

    –Ariela on Mar 17, 2008

  32. My best friend (also chinese) had a black/filipino girlfriend, and I did notice people looking at all of us when we hung out. To me they seemed fine and happy.
    As for myself, growing up in a mostly asian environment makes it hard to meet enough black women. There has been mutual curiosity, but mostly physical and unspoken.
    I haven’t seen it mentioned, but a culturally and racially neutral environment to get to know black women as individuals would be great. Race does not scare me, but cultural differences are real.

    –DL on Mar 18, 2008

  33. My name is maria but everybody calls me mia. i’m in a relationship with a vietnamese male, we are actually engaged and will be celebrating our 4th year anniversary. let me tell you his family won’t give me the time of day, but that dosen’t matter because they are all idiots. i have learned that most asian parents aren’t too smart so trust me it will probably to be the hardest relationship you will ever have, but their out there, i”m living proof.

    –maria blaze on Mar 21, 2008

  34. To vallerie G: India is in Asia! Sheesh, look on the map. I’m glad that this is getting more coverage, though I’m a little disturbed that some people are saying Asian men are exotic etc. I wouldn’t want anyone coming to date me because I’m exotic and all that nonsense, I have dumped people for that. I’m not the flavor of the month to be tried out. I want to be dated for me and I will never do that to anyone else.

    –Ana on Mar 28, 2008

  35. I am a black female who is right now engaged to an Chinese man . He is the first man that I dated outsiside of my race. i was in China last month to visit his family and was a little nervous because of everything that I heard. His parents were very friendly to me . Made me feel at home. I got along with his siblings as well. He is a good man and would not chhange for the world.

    –Denise on Apr 09, 2008

  36. I’m a 40 year old Black woman who has developed a major attraction to Asian men in the last 5-8 years. I can’t say just when I discovered just how gorgeous, intelligent, and masculine some of them are, but since my eyes were opened there has been no turning back. The problem is that it seems that the race relations between blacks and Asians are reminiscence to that of whites and blacks way back in the 50’s, and at my age, I just don’t know if I have the patience to deal with a middle aged man who still needs his parents approval concerning his love interest.

    –Cocoa H on Apr 19, 2008

  37. I am not appreciative of this new mix…Asian men suddenly finding black women attractive. I don’t think so, this new mix is all about supply and demand, Asian women are more attracted to white men and white women don’t necessarily find asian male attractive…in comes the black women. Well I say no thanks, I don’t care for being an after thought. I

    –sewad2003 on Apr 20, 2008

Post your comments.

Comments using inappropriate language will not be posted. AsianWeek reserves the right to re-publish comments, into "Letters to the Editor," in which case, we reserve the right to edit comments for length and style. If you would like to write a letter to our editor, please email: asianweek@asianweek.com.


© 2005-2008 AsianWeek. The information you receive on-line from AsianWeek is protected by the copyright laws of the United States. The copyright laws prohibit any copying, redistributing, retransmitting, or repurposing of any copyright protected material. Privacy Policy

Close
E-mail It