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Kitchen Goddess

Dear Q,
My boyfriend is a great guy, great in the sack, no intimacy issues, and he has a good job and future prospects. The only problem is that he doesn’t like Asian food. I have never heard of this in my entire life, but he’s one of those white people who doesn’t eat anything but chicken and broccoli.

I certainly understand a hesitancy to eat organs or feet or brain, but that’s hardly what I make. I make basic Asian fusion stir-fry on a regular basis, but he can’t stand soy sauce either.

Since food is so important in my life, I don’t know how we’re going to cope as a long-term couple. Can I get him to change this annoying quality?

— Kitchen Goddess

Dear Goddess,
No.

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Comments

This is funny. I dated a guy who was like that and it just didn’t work. He didn’t eat meat, he didn’t like seafood (except for overcooked squid) and it was miserable every meal. I think food can really show a guy’s passion. This guy seems to have none. I’m dubious about “great in the sack” comment if he’s afraid of food.

–Miriam on Mar 22, 2008
Guys:
Funny, this is hilarious.
Probably planted.
Even so, Q’s response is classic for an “advice” column.
As for the kitchen deity, she should simply make sure her guy takes his daily vitamins and supplements, then send the leftovers to the nearest community dining hall.

q:
Great response.
As for the kitchen deity, make sure he takes his er, ah, vitamins and supplements, and then send the leftovers to the nearest community kitchen.

–Frank Eng on Mar 22, 2008
I really cannot believe the last two letters. Women question how they can maintain relationship with short men and a man who does not like Asian food. Sometimes women can be so shallow.

If this is a deal breaker, than this woman is definitely not mature enough to be in a relationship.

–Roger Chan on Mar 24, 2008
HAHA. I think Q is getting tired of answering these shallow emails. 2 “No”s in a roll. Nice job Q.

–Marcus H on Mar 24, 2008
are you serious with that question? duh - food is intimacy. if it’s an issue for you that he doesn’t like any certain food, that’s your problem, not his. you need to get over it and if you’re gonna marry this guy - he’ll probably end up hating you cuz you’re gonna be on his case about this and probably other things you want him to change either now or at some time in the future. just accept that people don’t really change who they are or how they think - they might adjust how they behave and react, but the core reality is they are not going to ‘change’ - puh..leeeze. maybe you’re not right for him, or is it, maybe he’s not right for you.

–omg on Mar 24, 2008
You’re staking your relationship on the fact that your boyfriend dislikes your taste in food? Get over it. There are worse things to worry about.

–Julian on Mar 30, 2008

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