Dear Q,
I am a pretty conventional Asian American woman — accountant, religious, a little shy. But I don’t want to have a family. I think kids are great when they belong to someone else, but I am certain I would not make a good mother. I don’t cook much and have never had a nesting […]

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Dear Q,
I was having an argument with a friend the other evening about Asian Americans in the media. She claimed that there just isn’t enough representation. I think we are way beyond that; I don’t care about seeing myself on television. What I want is power and access. If Lucy Liu gets another role, that’s […]

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Dear Q,
My boyfriend of eight years and I have a great relationship. Four years ago, we decided that we could no longer be sexually monogamous and decided to open our relationship to others. There are basic rules about where, who and how often, and though at times it hurts and is

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Dear Q,
My brother’s a really sweet man and very shy. Growing up, he was always the quiet one reading books who didn’t have a lot of friends. Our parents both passed away when we were in high school, so we have been taking care of each other ever since. He now lives in a rental

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Dear Q,
My boyfriend and I disagree on politics. It’s the only issue that we have consistently argued about during our eight-year relationship.
I’m a white guy, and he’s a Republican, assimilated Chinese American. I find it despicable that he would vote for that party, no matter the candidate — and with this election, he’s become even […]

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Dear Q,
My Chinese American husband is a tightwad. The last straw was when my parents came to visit. I wanted to take them out to a nice restaurant where each bowl of noodles was $14, which is not your everyday price, but it was a nice place. My husband complained

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Dear Q,
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. So far, so good. The only problem is that he has “Angry Asian Man” syndrome. He flips off at the slightest thing, like getting cut off while parking. He has issues with

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Dear Q,
I was born with one leg slightly shorter than the other, so I have a noticeable limp. Other than that, I’m just your average 30-something Chinese-Filipino American female.
Dating has been very tough; it’s very competitive. I do all the things that magazines tell you to do about networking, taking classes and putting yourself out […]

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Dear Q,
I’m a white girl dating a really hot Korean guy. We get along really well, laugh a lot and have solid communication skills. The problem is he’s totally Christian.

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Dear Q,
My boyfriend is a great guy, great in the sack, no intimacy issues, and he has a good job and future prospects. The only problem is that he doesn’t like Asian food. I have never heard of this in my entire

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Dear Q,
I’m taller than my boyfriend even when I’m not in heels. It feels awkward most of the time, and it’s glaring in pictures. We just look a little off.
He’s the sweetest man in the world, and we are very serious and have talked about getting engaged

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Dear Q,
I have a wonderful 10-year-old nephew and 5-year-old niece who I try to spend time with at least once a month. I really enjoy watching them grow up and value our close relationship.
However, I’m in my mid-40s now, and their energy level just wears me out! When they come over, we

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