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  • Lean On Me – Again

    Lean On Me – Again

    Dear Q, I have a friend who is always asking for favors. It doesn’t really bother me except lately, now that she’s unemployed, she’s been leaning on me too much: car rides, eating my Chinese take-out leftovers, having me pick up the tab for dinners...

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  • My Friend the Addict

    My Friend the Addict

    Dear Q, My friend is a drug addict. By day, he’s a Chinese American lawyer who works hard, goes out to dinners with colleagues and hangs with his parents. But on weekends, he’s doing serious stuff locked up in his apartment. He called me once...

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  • Shallow BF

    Shallow BF

    Dear Q, My boyfriend is very shallow about how he looks. He washes his face three times a day and is a clotheshorse. When we go out, it takes him forever to get ready, even if it’s just to dim sum on Sundays.

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  • Bratty Spoiled Niece

    Bratty Spoiled Niece

    Dear Q, I hate my sister’s daughter. She’s a spoiled Chinese American brat who gets every toy, dessert or wish she wants. She’s only 9, but it’s so irritating that my boyfriend and I often leave before dessert when

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  • Mom’s Plastic Surgery

    Mom’s Plastic Surgery

    Dear Q, My mother wants to have plastic surgery — and not just injections but reconstruction. I’m very much against it. I told her it’s cultural shame to give up her Chinese looks, but she isn’t listening. Can I stop her? — Woman With Her...

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  • My Big Fat Boyfriend

    My Big Fat Boyfriend

    Dear Q, My boyfriend is fat: He has fat fingers, fat calves, fat shoulders and a fat face. We’ve been together eight years, and while I didn’t expect him to stay as handsome as when I met him, he’s let himself go a lot and...

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  • No More Jewish Husbands

    No More Jewish Husbands

    Dear Q, I am one of four Chinese daughters in my family (no sons). All three of my sisters married Jewish guys, and now the pressure from my parents for me to marry a Chinese guy is too much. I told them it was unfair;...

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  • Tech-Addicted BF

    Tech-Addicted BF

    Dear Q: My Chinese American boyfriend is a stereotypical tech geek and addicted to his gadgets. He will look at his PDA, cell, check his email, surf the Web and text while we’re together—in the car, over dinner, while I’m in the middle of a...

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  • No Job, No Nookie

    No Job, No Nookie

    Dear Q: I’m a 28-year-old who lost my job recently, but I’m enjoying getting to know San Francisco again and hanging out with friends. I’m having a good time despite the financial worries ahead, and I’ve worked pretty hard, so I’ve decided to take a...

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  • SWM seeks SAF

    SWM seeks SAF

    Dear Q: I’m a single white male in search of an Asian or Thai spouse, but I’m finding that difficult in the Houston, Texas, area. I thought you may be able to help more than going to every Thai or Asian restaurant in town; the...

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